One day, the world looked different. The person you love is no longer here. What are you supposed to do now?
Everything around you keeps going. Everyone in your surroundings is moving forward. But you yourself don't want to even move. The bed feels warm. The lights are all off. The outside noise is muffled. This is where it's safe--inside your own thoughts and feelings, and no one to tell you otherwise.
Everything around you keeps going. Everyone in your surroundings is moving forward. But you yourself don't want to even move.
Losing someone you love isn't easy. It will also make a person feel depressed with immense pain. When someone you love dies, you grieve. Grieving is hard; you don’t have to like it. You may get upset with yourself because of the grief. You may wish you could just rise above it. You might think you should get over it quickly. You may also find grieving inconvenient, disruptive, painful or annoying. Grieving is all that and more. But it is also the natural reaction to significant loss.
If you can keep the attention on the real problem—my loved one died—you can help yourself avoid a deep depression. Your feelings are valid. Your problems are real, and some degree of depression is normal.
Symptoms of grief, depression and trauma can resemble one another. In order to respond to these symptoms appropriately and move forward with life, it is crucial to understand the differences. Trauma symptoms include (1):
It’s not unusual for those who grieve to feel disconnected, empty and anxious. Grief encompasses different emotions for different people, and it takes time to adjust to the loss and any accompanying changes. Sometimes, though, the depressive state doesn't go away over time and continues to disrupt everyday life. This may be an indicator of a depressive disorder (2).
It is possible to grieve without being depressed. That said, there is a difference between the sadness of grief and the unrelenting numbness of depression. Sadness can be a symptom of depression, but clinical depression is more than sadness. If you experience four months of symptoms without any improvement, then it is more likely that you are clinically depressed rather than dealing with a period of grief. Symptoms and behaviors indicating clinical depression include the following:
Symptoms of grief, depression and trauma can resemble one another.
Grieving the loss may be painful, but it is necessary to allow healing to occur. Life isn’t always going to be on a downward spiral. When it is, you can find ways to focus on the positive instead of the negative. The following affirmations can help with finding positive focus:
Start by recognizing your grief. Then take necessary steps to work through the pain. It will not be easy, but you are worth the effort.